Wednesday, February 16, 2011

You Are NOT The Father


I love those 'baby daddy' shows on Maury Povich. However, I have noticed something. When a guy leaves the girl he got pregnant, the NEW girl he starts dating looks EXACTLY like the old girlfriend nine times out of ten. It's freakin' eerie.

Oops, there is another woman who didn't guess right who her baby daddy was.

Now, ladies, explain something to me if I got this wrong. There are only a small numbers of days in the month when a woman CAN get pregnant, right? Then, to NOT know for sure who your baby's daddy is really says more about you and your 'choices'. The guys are dirtbags to be sure but there is much education out there about contraception if one chooses to take advantage of it (and I wish more young women would).

Don't even get me started about all the stupid names these girls give their babies. The (supposed) father is named JOHN and you call the baby JOHNTAVIA? WTF?

I apologize if I offended anyone. If you didn't like what I said think about who you are defending - a woman on the Maury Povich's DNA show.

16 comments:

Budd said...

Kal- maybe the other potential Daddy was named Tavia. yeah prolly not, but it would have been nice.

Unknown said...

I am with you Kal and feel for the child that has to go through life hung with a name most folks can't even pronounce.

Belle said...

I keep thinking about the baby, who will some day know his mommy was on national TV guessing who his daddy is. Sheesh!
I feel sorry for everyone involved and I think Maury is a heartless user.

Kal said...

Oh it's for sure that Maury knows which side of his bread the butter is on. He must make a ton of money from that DNA place alone.

Belle said...

You know what, Kal? I'm pissed off at the world today, and I think I am spreading my pissiness around. Sorry.

Kal said...

I never even picked that up from your comment. You never have to apologize for any thing you have to say. It's all good.

Sarah said...

I am with you on the irresponsibility of these girls and their unwanted pregnancies and inability to keep their legs shut or to use widely available & often free contraception.

However, I don't think we should bash them for the name thing.

I plan on naming my children strange, perhaps hard-to-pronounce names that may be combos of things I like the sound of or have seen in a Sci-Fi or Fantasy book.

I have a VERY common name and have always hated the fact that there were 6 other Sarah's in my grade alone in school (and we had <200 people in my class). One of my best friends in high school was a Sarah and we even had the same initials! People had to call her Scary Sarah & me just regular Sarah to differentiate us (we were both also brunettes around the same height & weight to further complicate matters).

I want my children to have unique names that are not shared with anyone else (or very unlikely to be).

I think the naming convention is a personal choice and can be uniquely cultural or regional. To me, requiring that children be named out of some "socially acceptable" list of names is bogus.

Do we celebrate creativity and individualism, or do we knock people when they do something that is creative and outside previously accepted norms?

Personally I think it's pretty cool that some people name their kids with a combination of the father & mother's name. What a great way to showcase using your name where you came from and to make the name uniquely theirs.

I'm not a naming expert, but I think this is almost a return to ancient naming practices, like where someone was named "Sarahsdotter" to indicate she was the daughter of Sarah. Isn't that why a lot of Scandavian-origin names end in -son or -sen?

Kal said...

I think I was being resentful by the fact that I never met stupid girls that gave it up so quickly to these losers. I had to work for each and every piece of tale I ever got.

You arguement about names is a strong one. My name is rare (250th on the list) and I have never personally taught another kid named Calvin. I never saw one of those bike license plates with my name on it. I did teach a Peter Parker once but he didn't get at all why his name is special. Now THOSE are some neglectful parents to never tell him.

I guess I was also being hypocritical because I would love to name a girl Logan but more because I liked that name since 'Logan's Run' and not because of Wolverine.

I also like Wynter for a girl.

I like your name because it can't be shortened to anything else. No one calls you 'Sa'. Cal was my father and Calvin was his middle name. He hated his first name which was Lee Roy (I guess that is two names). I was named after him but I was always Calvin.

Kal is purely internet related. Kal-el was Superman's birth name and I thought that was a good name to use online.

Sarah said...

I think in hindsight you should be glad that you had to work hard to get with girls. How much more of an accomplishment is it to know that you had to work hard to be with quality girls, than to know that you only got to sleep with her because she has an open-V policy?

This is why I like you Kal. You are always ready to admit if you are wrong. It's something that not everyone is willing to do, but if more were, the world would be a more honest place and probably filled with less conflict & strife.

Sarah said...

And it's funny you mention the not being able to shorten Sarah thing, because my momma's name is Deborah and she purposefully named my sister & names that can't be shortened because she hated how hers could.

She also wanted to name us something that wasn't very popular since her name was, but she epically failed on mine :)

Kal said...

It's not so much admitting that I am wrong but being impressed with anyone who takes the time and effort and can come up with an intelligent counter arguement to my point. You have no idea how many people I talk to whose sentences I can finish in my head. To find someone who actually can give me something new to think of that is well reasoned - well that is a gift to me. Telling me, "You are wrong because you smell" or "I know you are but what am I" doesn't help the discussion one bit.

Now these girls with this 'open V' policy. Have you got some numbers I can call?

Pat Tillett said...

What a great place to display your dirty laundry on the "Maury" show!
I see it about once a year and everytime, it's the same thing, just different faces!

Sarah said...

I wouldn't do you like that Kal :)
You deserve someone who isn't going to open her V to just anyone, especially if she's opening while being with you.

Kal said...

Damn you for looking out for my best interest like a good friend would.

Nomad said...

How about my name. You can pronounce it three ways with 8 different spellings and still get asked how do you spell your name? only having two syllables?
357th on http://www.namestatistics.com/
Or getting asked are you the captain or just a commander? (Star Trek tease)
The only good thing is if spelt correctly and reversed I'm named after a cool car.

Drake said...

I think i remember a girl who was on the show at least 3 times and went through a dozen guys and couldn't find the baby daddy!

Montag is a great name for a kid and so is Rufus. If i had kids they'd probably hate me. :)